He broke up with me the weekend before one nursing class ended. Even if it hurts. things were going ok until this month when he slowly started withdrawing, he started making promises he wouldnt keep one being spending valentines with me which dint happen. If it does, then he really is playing games. My guy text me and said he was in a foul mood and need time. Its a waste of energy. I was miserable and baffled. It literally makes no sense. He had stated that he needed me in his life stating I was such a positive impact and that he valued that and needed my friendship. Heres a secret: men WANT an amazing woman. Was because I am a single mother and he is a single father, too? He chose to disappear because he might have found it awkward to tell you that he has found someone whom he feels a stronger connection with. If so, most of the United States is psycho, because we *all* do that sort of thing nowadays. Moving on to better. So we hook up again and now the same thing. Its forced its awkward and just weird. I dont think he will in my heart and there goes another 5 days of spinning out of control and worrying how can they be so strong to not communicate at all?? I left two message: one that I really like him and that I dont want to be an option, I want to be a priority, and I understand he cant provide that as he will be bedridden for 1 month. I am in disbelief and disappointed. I did what any smart girl would and came straight here for advice. Immediately, I ate my words apologised, called no answer. Another new experience. If a day later, I hadn texted him back, I get a sorry I texted you by mistake I meant that for my friend R, not you. Ive realized the guys I see cant handle my challenges. That is what cowards do. I asked if anything was wrong and he more or less said Yes, Im not ready for where this is going, for a relationship.. Id be getting along with her really well but something would trigger my self doubt so out of the blue almost as a test i guess, I would just disappear on her or ghost her and not reply to her txts or calls, etc. After the first date I waited until he messaged me again and asked me out. You know what ladies.. after reading these comments, all I have to say is men are men, regardless of what age. You like the guy, and he seemed like no other! I just really dont get it. I gave him some space and let myself not to be too bothered every time he wouldnt reply to my emails right away (it took him 3-8 days before replying). Then he confirmed a second appointment for next week ??? I did that for myself and I felt better because I felt that I released those angry feelings on him. He was gone first for a week. Image via Unsplash. Better not to analyze it and just let it go. I was never mean to him or clingy, only kind and understanding and non judgemental, so it really hurt, especially since it was the first time I let my guard down after having it up for so long. Since the very first day, I already knew its gonna be hard since hes almost 20 years older than me. Drop him. Talking to you was lovely, but Im afraid this is not how I like things to flow within the communication. I just dont get it. He doesnt reply my texts or skype messages (I eventually deleted and blocked him). He invited me out and we really clicked. That hes far more concerned about himself and not you. Ever. We are long distance and its been a few months and weve seen eachother many times. Youre delusional. I told them to favor and leave a message first then we chat awhile, the if thats good we exchange phone numbers. Just like that. So consider that before or if you respond. Everything is about the woman. And he knows I need honesty. Can I reach ou one more time? I never heard another word from him, that was 6 days ago. NOW IT GETS CRAZY. I felt he spent the night thinking about me! And then youll find another new guy you can try and spin something great out of. Hes told me he loves me and very emotional things, but in the past week or so hes pulled back, and has been cold. It is important to give a Virgo man space when he needs it, as this will help him to process his feelings and come back to the relationship stronger. I didnt look for him, nada. I had the Midnight FB text too and that worked for a while but I didnt want to be involved with an insecure fool who needed multiple partners. So I ask I return from vacation only to have him block me on instagram. What I want to do is to straight up ask him his feeling because if I know for sure he is uninterested it will be easier for me to end contact again. Stopped calling, stopped replying to my texts. Thanks! Take care and be good! He had NEVER answered. Not only will this make you look clingy and accusatory of his actions, but also create a disbalance of power in his favor and assign you the role of the chaser. I dont know what I could of done differently. I asked him whats wrong, and he said that he just felt unsatisfied with the company he was working in and that he hadnt felt depressed again for four years until recently. Im gonna feel better in no time, I hope. As long as he can easily walk back into your life whenever he wants, hell be one happy man. During the last day of the 5th month I drank a bit too much at a graduation party and texted him. Sometimes it means he is multi dating. Theres this guy, we are best of friends. Who knows what could happen in the future. So I know he is alright. second date rolls around. NEEDLSS TO SAY Saturday morning came and with no response, I noticed he had REMOVED me from social media and made himself private. Hi, Thankyou for the Blog i learnt its disinterest mostly that causes disappearance mostly. A week later he told me he wanted to try to work things out with his ex girlfriend. Enjoy the dating scene. I wouldnt say we were boyfriend or girlfriend but he told his mother about me and his best friend and told his stepdad that he was happy. ?, It was going so well and I had to spoil it all by texting him on Sundayanyway he answered quickly perhaps because he was already online and the conversation went fine, flirty, like everything was going fine and infact it got a little inappropriateI think he was checking to see if he could get a sex chat out of me but I am not sure, I smartly sidestepped the situation while still being friendly since I dont want to set some sort of precedent for any possible relationship we might have in the future, ..jeezMenI think he is feeling me out, checking if I will be open to some possible FWB situation in the future. ), and not heard from him, and leave it at that. I like you! And then I tried to relax. Men use to be men from what I remember about 15 years ago. No need to have the conversation on what you both want again, that stage is over and you dont need to sound like a broken nagging record. I hadnt been in the dating life since me and my Childrens father stopped talking (which is for 2yrs). Which sucks if I am because he just left. If you've been texting with a dude for say two weeks and then you stop, it's going to take him at least five or six days until he registers the change unless he's very into you. are still immature jerks. I want to know how hes doing! I refuse to call or text him again, but i cant help but to feel extreme sadness and confusion. Before you text anything back to him, you gotta make sure to get yourself in the right mindset the do NOT take it personally mindset. I have followed their advice for years and its always been spot on). (just aint gonna work out girl) I kept saying we should just be friends but when the onslaught continued I deleted him. The first time he and hooked up he dropped off the face of the earth. Lets take care of ourselves. 1. I saw his dating profile on Bumble last Sun. we met again and he surprised me with a nice phone and then after that he went distant and he could not talk, text back and i thot may be he needed some alone time. One being he gave me a STD and wasnt aware that he could pass it on to me (Or was he thinking it would never happen to him?) After 4 days straight of messaging about how our days were going, it got flirtier so that by days 5 and 6 there was straight out sexting at my initiation, not his. He talked to me non stop, funny videos, told me how he felt about me and could really see me in his future and told him mom about me. ! BUT the giant problem with that statement is that it assumes you dont deserve someone who REALLY IS into you! And its not always about the other person and what theyve done to you. I care about him and we had been seeing each other for awhile. Are you out of your mind? Women tend to over react at times (Ive done it), like if he doesnt reach out for two or three days shes like OMG! I am so sorry;(. Its just not fair. So i stopped thinking of him and concentrated on sorting out my mortgage and looking for a flat. Its been almost 3 weeks now =(. Around 7 months ago I started talking to an old friend Ive have know since I was 12 (Im 18 now) we were great friends and talked a lot almost every day for a few years. So that night the last thing he said to me was a text message saying he missed me and to send him a picture. ?IVE NEVER BEEN SO IN LOVE. 3. So, I am making the effort to work on myself, mentally I feel great. I just knew there was more to it. Anyways..its going on three weeks and no contact despite me initating text and me calling twice and he only answered the first one. Blogs like these are the best and help me get through my rough times! :P we started talking. One day, poof, he pulled away for no reason. Funny you should say that, because I am doing sociology, and often think how this would make for great research! Lola, if you are certain ALL you want is someone to **** then by all means, call the guy up and tell him so. I havent dated in years and am not even sure how to date. Thats part of how you know hes Mr. Sabrina, sometimes I do think they want us to follow up. He brought me flowers, made reservations at s very fancy restaurant and took me Even accused him of having someone else, but he tried to explain that hes just busy about his work. I never heard from him again! 5 minutes passed then I said to him so youre not going tp mention the fact that you unfriended me without even let me know? Later when i really thought about it, it probably would not have worked. sometimes the wrong relationship ends with a fireball. Guys who are interested text back. Last year 2015 we finally went on our first date and he vanished for a couple of days, then finally texted. He would do that again, and it would hurt more if you invested in the relationship. And definitely not if youre over 40. He even prepared his work lunches at mine on Sunday and stuck them in the freezer for this week in case he stayed over during the week. After some times, somethings changed. Remember, if he wanted to see/speak to you, he would. I dont think you did anything wrong by texting him asking WHEN the date was going to happen. I just freeze up. Expose him and let him realize that you know whats going on. This is the last thing you probably want to hear, but this is the truth. He claimed how much he loved me but he was very selfish during our relationship and dont put much effort and for that he was sorry. Ive tried initiating contact a few times, But he disappears mid conversation (which i find rude) And then i wont hear a peep again for weeks on end, So i stopped doing it. I went to work one day, came home and everything was gone, he had moved out I found him at a friends house we started to work things through, he said we were back together and after he got home from his work trip he would move back in. The best thing you can do is NOT take it personally; you think about him a lot while he probably is completely preoccupied with something else- i doubt very much he sits around thinking about not liking you anymore. We still had a good evening we had takeaway watched a movie and even became intimate . Relationships are meant to develop organically over a period of time, with a strong base of friendship and trust. Lots in common, laugh, have fun together. We talked regularly after that, and snapchatted like she usually did but then last weekend I had to work and study for a midterm so we didnt talk for 4 days. Like, you could text me and say it directly, I wouldnt mind. We were meant to be spending the day together yesterday (Monday 29th) when I came back from my parents so I called his mobile on Saturday and Sunday night to discuss plans. He talked about wanting to see my apartment and other things that would leave me to believe this would not be the last time I saw him. Your ex asks you to hang out. 12. Even though you ended up being hurt, it was better in the long run. There might have been no connection at all, however, the desire to be together with him blinded you into not expecting his disappearance. I know that will you understand my ways He also treated me as if I am his girlfriend and was perfectly treating me. Finally. Dated a guy for a few months. He told you point blank hes not into it and only wants to be your friend. He stopped initiating contact with you because he is no longer interested in you. When did dating become such a game? Now I could have vanished on her after that goodnight kiss and ignored her texts, but instead I reached out and told her I felt like she didnt listen when other people talk, just waited for her turn to speak and that made conversation difficult. Now, I understand women are getting more and more frustrated with this and I think men are doing this more and more as actually are women. So in my opinion the person who finds themselves left behind should swallow the pride and reach out to ask for the very basic thing they deserve : a conversation, a closure. Wouldnt we have a more trust-based society? Should I try to reach out when Im THANK YOU!! Of course, and I am sure I will. You dont really think that as your relationship progresses, hell one day decide to vanish from your life completely and then come back when it suits him. Im a guy and I did that all the time, although not for the reasons mentioned here. Girls will come up with all kinds of deluded reasons why they absolutely must initiate contact. Most of what you write about is people who are just barely starting to date and even wondering if theyll ever get to be in an actual real relationship with who theyre dating, or be called his girlfriend, and then wonder why he pulls away at that juncture But what about those of us in well established love relationships, where you ARE his girlfriend, where he HAS declared his love for you, where he HAS said he wants to marry you and spend his life loving you, and THEN he pulls the distancing act??? Hes the kind of energetic, restless and happy boy as opossed to me Im much more laid back and quiet. Take a hard look at your life and try to better yourself. Im a mother of two. Ive had so many clients ask me what exactly to say when a vanisher comes back and starts texting again, and maybe youve wondered the same thing to yourself. At the start of the dating men can go into the 'wooing' phase fast. Then whenever i get over it and get my life back on track he comes back and manages to destroy it again. Hes not a huge user so his activity was easy to spot. A guy can actually like a girl so much that he do not want her to discover his emotional, financial and other personal baggage and struggle he might be dealing with. 3. Childish, clearly he wasnt interested so I sent him a text have a nice life. This is why I always tell the women in my life to consider the men they date very, very seriously. He said he had a great time. There will be nothing to wonder about. I said it appears you are still available to her. Like y introduce me to your childhood friends and colleagues and then disappear without a trace after 4 months? Show him the door to your life and let him go. He cant just ghost like that. People make a way to do what they want. That he is a jerk is a separate thing. And pleeeeeeease delete those losers from your social media websites and YOUR PHONE!!! And if not, I dunno how will I act when he comes back because right now, Im losing interest on him. BUT he still checks in on my snapchat all the time?! Never married either of us, no kids. And this is because youd be operating from a mindset of love abundance. As I have mentioned before, after he sent the email asking for a break, I waited ovr week to reply. I see all these new comments about guys ghosting on women. He also stated to me several times that I deserved something so much better than him and that he wasnt relationship material.Then until a month and half ago. I dont know why he stopped but I do know this. another week goes by, I text: Happy Easter. I met this boy at party, he seemed very interested and asked for my number a lot of times during the party at the end I decided to give him my phone number because he was so nice and thought he deverved an oportunity. I dont want to waste my time. he reappeared with an excuse, after i tried to reach out to him on several occasions when he initially started to pull away but was he nice enough to reply to my text back then..NO! She deserves a lot better than my bullshiets and keeping her at bay is in many way my expression of caring for her. It has been almost four months now since. Truth! I also told him probably he thought I was one of the girls who said how high when he said Jump. - Examples, What to do when a guy ignores your texts? And thats all Im confused and frustrated. Is it okay for us to say goodbye? Thanks. Sorry its long and confusing but I tried to give as much information as possible. Once youre in the right mindset to converse with this guy, youre ready to actually respond to him. Let him know what you want from him. Right! I think he was looking for a way out. I felt secure he genuinely wanted to know me so we got physical when I saw him on our official first date. Being stuck up. I know he has family stuff going on so Im not expecting to be his priority at the moment, but surely he has 5 mins to send a text? Some things SHOULD BE, and are, deal breakers. I text him and no response. It happens to the best of us. He finally stopped me in the parking lot at work and told me he was having a lot of life issues at once and was trying to sort them out, but he would be in touch. One day I finally went to see him and call him on his shit. That would be horrible. Then right before he went into work he sent me a heart symbol through text (<3) and it made me happy. Why would you stay with someone who A: isnt interested in you sexually, and B: by his actions, doesnt care if you are in his life? Right? I asked why he didnt go and whether or not he needed to leave? at some point he was supposed to move to ny, and we were both really excited cause we knew something was gonna finally happen between us. Also, I commend you for being honest and telling her you were nt feeling it. Settling is for the birds. I still loved him though. I never heard from him after the last time we hung out, not even on the day we were supposed to hang out later. 4. I guess a red flag on first date was he talked about the ex cheating on him?! ha. We again tried to talk things over. Single men view the family dynamic quite negatively, unless they already have kids themselves. I play on a chess forum, and there is this really expert player, I befriended him and asked for lessons. Come up for air, take a couple of deep breaths, give him a minute to think about what you just said if hes a slow responder dont jump around the place running circles around him. His loss.. Im almost wondering if it was the truth or if he used it as an excuse to disappear. The third time was because he did something stupid while drunk about 9 months later. How do I shake this feeling of guilt and incompetence? 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